Power of Visualization
No, I’m not talking about imagining you won a lottery and waking up the next morning with a check in your hands. I mean, there is a small chance it might happen, very small, but if this is your thing, by all means, go for it. Somebody has to win all that money…
I’m talking about a more subtle art of visualization.
It has many names – some call it mental practice, and even use this method to prepare for a chess match or gymnastics routine! Others call it positive thinking, affirmation, self-confirmation etc. Doesn’t matter what you want to call it – start using it! Because your thoughts make you who you are and they will either empower you or prevent you from becoming your true self.
According to Psychology Today, study results highlight the strength of the mind-body connection, or in other words, the link between thoughts and behaviors – a very important connection for achieving your best life.
You Become What You Think
I noticed this to be true time and time again – your thoughts make you who you are. What you think about yourself is what defines you, not what others say about you. Take a note of this right here, right now, please.
Have you seen that girl at the beach who is probably heavier than you but so sexy? She is getting all the attention from the guys and she owns it! And there you are, hiding in a one piece, under a towel. I too have been there and I was so jealous of that girl! I was jealous of her confidence that made her shine like a superstar. I wanted to be that other girl!
As James Allen said, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”.
It is easy to get lost in unattainable standards set by Photoshop and celebrities. It is hard to bring out the confidence next to someone who is (in your opinion) better looking, smarter, faster, has achieved more etc. But if you are a mom like me, you too probably have a hard time keeping up with the Kardashians. It is easy to think less of yourself and go down the rabbit hole of depression and negativity if you start comparing yourself to others.
But yet it is so important to stay true to yourself. It is imperative to pause and remind yourself of your worth. What do you have to offer? And don’t give me that bs answer “nothing”.
Don’t Let The World Get To You
Even as adults we face a lot of negative people who want to bring us down. Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. They want to bring us down only because they are not secure with who they are. They want us to fail so it looks as if they have succeeded. If you have an attitude where your self-worth is measured by what others think of you, you give others the power to judge you. Plain and simple, you give them the green light to come in and take your confidence away in broad daylight! I’ve been there and when I finally managed to free myself from this mindset, it was so liberating! Let yourself free and take control of your thoughts.
Sometimes that bully is you. We let our minds work against us by convincing us we are limited and cannot accomplish what we have in mind. Instead of pursuing our goals we sometimes can’t see past the bad circumstances and obstacles. We start believing there is no way out and the only outcome is to give up.
Do you see your glass full-empty or half-full? Instead of focusing your energy on what you lack, start noticing what you have. Positivity attracts positivity and it multiplies in all areas of life.
Build Confidence in 5 Easy Steps
In order to become successful, you need to become confident, otherwise, it’s a vicious circle. Confident people are happier and have a much easier time in life. Good news is, self-confidence can be worked on and learned.
Here are 5 ways that helped me build self-confidence and start loving myself more:
- Admit your mistakes and apologize. Don’t try to cover up or ignore them. It’s ok to be wrong or not know everything.
- Accept the compliments – you freakin deserve every single one of them.
- If you truly believe you are right – just do it. Don’t let other people tell you otherwise. It is your life to live and your mistakes to make.
- On tough days, remind yourself of what you have already achieved.
- Practice on managing your stress levels – is this really worth stressing over? Am I overreacting? Find your happy place, I know it sounds corny but it works!
Thought in the mind hath made us. What we are
By thought we wrought and built. If a man’s mind
Hath evil thoughts, pain comes on him as comes
The wheel the ox behind . . . If one endure in purity
of thought joy follows him as his own shadow – sure.